Years ago, I was grieving over being taken advantage of over and over again. I hurt because I was surrounded by takers who were self-absorbed in their own needs and never genuinely caring for me. I would trust their words of loyalty, commitment, and partnership until I was slapped in the face with sudden, heartbreaking betrayals...
We may not think that we are hiding. We might even reason that we are taking the higher road in order to avoid the chaos and the drama. But do you ever find yourself afraid to share your ideas, opinions, beliefs or political views? Do you find yourself keeping quiet in order to protect yourself from retaliation or rejection?
Validation sees and initiates worth to the core identity of another person. It is generated from the purity of their heart to your heart! It is the overflow of a soul who knows its own worth. You are a treasure—period. All that you do is celebrated and honored, but never above who you are! Validation is selfless, unconditional, and mature. It is unguarded, authentic, and untainted by personal agendas. It lays a healthy foundation that allows the innocent exchange of life. It is from this place of value that strong relationships and partnerships can be forged.
Even with all of the gifts and talents and abilities that He has put inside of us; even with our unique contribution to the world; and even with the uniqueness of our personality, still there is one thing that supersedes it all.
Sometimes we feel as though in order to love, we must give our whole heart to every person in our lives. The truth is that granting full access to our heart to everyone is really not loving, healthy, or wise. What healthy boundaries do is help us to keep the bad out and to let the good in. We know that God has called all of us to love unconditionally. When we can determine boundaries in our heart, we will actually be able to do this in a healthy way.
Sadly, life has not been fair for any of us. We all have experienced injustices, abuses of power, being taken advantage of. When injustice happens in our lives, we are not left without an advocate. We can run to the God of justice! In Genesis 8:25, the Bible says, “Will not the Judge of all the earth do right?” When we arise and cry out to the God of justice, He will arise on our behalf. He will bring recompense and restitution. He will not only restore what was stolen from us, be He will give us so much more than what was stolen. Our God is a God of a double portion.
One of the greatest acts of humility is being an instrument of justice on behalf of another. There is so much injustice in our world. To fully understand what justice is, we must look at what injustice is. Put simply, injustice is an abuse of power; it is when a person takes their own influence, title, wealth, or leadership and they use it to take from another what God destined for them to have. When there is usery, or abuse, or taking advantage of another, that’s injustice! However, there is another way! We can be instruments of justice in this world!
C H A N G E. God began to speak to me that this is a season of change. But it isn’t just any change; it isn’t a change initiated out of my passion or desires, goals or dreams. The change of this season is a change that is initiated by Heaven. Rest assured that when God initiates change, it always has the power to succeed. It is already sanctioned by Heaven. Angels are already on assignment. It is already blessed! When we partner with Him in this, there will be a supernatural grace that empowers us to walk in those things that release Heaven in our lives, and in our spheres of influence.
In this short video blog, Dr. Melodye shares the three types of relationships that every person needs to be successful in life. We cannot only have those who are pouring into us and likewise, we cannot only be investing into others. The first relationship is: mentors. We all need mentors. In fact, the highest form of honor you can give someone is to receive what they carry. Timothy had Paul; Elisha had Elijah. We never outgrow our need for mentors and for people to invest into us...
Years ago, I was teaching on bullying in a public school and approaching the subject from a realm of neuroscience. You see, scientifically, the words and/or the actions that I project will feedback into my own brain and establish memory there. This takes place whether what I say and do is healthy or unhealthy. Simply put, what I speak towards others will in-turn affect me. As I spoke to these high school students, I explained that when we bully another—whether in big or small ways—it ultimately hurts us. As I shared this concept, one young man rose up and said, “I don’t want to do that anymore!” He was recognizing that his actions towards others were actually hurting him.
This week, Dr. Melodye Hilton shares with you how valuable you are. No matter what you have experienced, no matter what has been spoken over you or how many times you’ve been broken apart and stepped on, absolutely nothing in life can take away your true value. Listen as one young man discovered this truth and how you can start embracing your unmistakable value today.
So often, we are deceived into believing that what we have is not good enough. We convince ourselves that our contribution is less than and that someone else is better for the job. As I was shaking in my boots before an audience of high-level influencers, the Lord spoke to me something that became a defining moment of my life. Just as the Lord spoke to me, you too, can just be you and do it for Him!
Powerful people change what they can and choose peace in what they cannot.
One day, someone called me up and wanted to inform me that someone was gossiping about me. They wanted me to be aware of what was being said. In times past, I may have allowed them to share and wanted to know. But what good would that have done? You see, I am powerless to change another person. All that I can do is make a choice within myself. I cannot change them, but I can choose to set my heart right before my God and to honor those around me.
Are you close enough to make a difference? We are all called to positively effect our world. In the process, we can become disappointed, discouraged, and rejected. Listen as Dr. Melodye shares of a time of personal pain and betrayal when the Lord spoke to her something that became a defining moment of her life.
Every one of us have a choice to either walk in the fear of being hurt or to trust that the risk of making a difference will be met with the grace to walk in victory, no matter what comes our way.