Emotional hijacking is the condition when a person’s emotions overtake their cognitive reasoning. Scientifically, it is where the reward center of the brain overrides the executive portion of the brain. Put simply, it is when emotions take the wheel.
I think about the times I have opened my mouth and inserted my foot because of heightened emotions and stressful situations. I remember the moments when I made decisions out of wounded feelings, offense, or disappointments rather than taking the time to process my thoughts and emotions. It was a revolutionary time for me when I learned the Science behind the process of thought and how often emotions “take over” wisdom and lead to these unbeneficial and sometimes harmful decisions.
How does an emotional hijack happen? Information first enters through our five senses. In a hijack, that information will reach the amygdala—the feeling part of the brain—before the cerebral cortex—the thinking, reasoning, and conscious part of our brain. It is a subconscious response to protect us from danger rather than waiting for the conscious brain to react.
Have you ever reacted quickly putting on the breaks as your arm subconsciously swings out to protect the passenger? This is emotional hijacking and is a necessary neurological function to protect us from physical danger. The problem, however, is when we react in fear to emotional threats. My feelings get hurt and I explode! We see it on the news with road rage or crimes of passion. It might be as simple as a child, or adult, throwing a temper tantrum. When we are dealing with emotional threats, our brain wants to respond in the same way as with physical threats. This is dangerous because these hijacking moments can and will be destructive to our leadership and sabotaging to our influence.
What do we do? How should we respond when our emotions want to commandeer our reasoning? Science acknowledges when a person is able to immediately recognize they are emotionally hijacking they are more able to submit it to wisdom. Ever hear someone say, “just breathe?” That is sound advice worth taking because when you breathe calmly you are engaging your frontal cortex—the judgment and reasoning portion of your brain. When you sense these moments happening or about to happen, tell yourself to think rationally—keep the thinking part of your brain “turned on” when the emotions will want to ignore it completely. Choose to have an attitude of thankfulness! It is very difficult to have two emotional responses at the same time. Will it be fear-based or wisdom-filled? Give your emotions time to recover before you make an important decision or confront a situation.
It’s important to know that the choices you make, the responses you have, and the attitude you portray determine the results you obtain. Think about what you want to accomplish, how you want to lead, and the influence you want to have. Your thoughts and corresponding actions will prophesy your future!
Remember, think about what you’re thinking about!
Life Exchange Podcast
Episode 08: Emotional Hijacking
God made us threefold beings in that we are a spirit, with a soul, and we live in a body. All three of these areas work together and are often more connected than we realize. In this episode, we’ll talk about what happens physically when our emotions overtake logic and what we can do when this happens to prevent future hijacks, repair past ones, and walk in overall health.
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Dr. Melodye Hilton is the co-host of the Life Exchange Podcast. Melodye works with individuals and workgroups around the globe as a leadership consultant, behavioral analyst, and executive coach. (www.drmelodye.com) For over 38 years, she and her husband, Steven, have served
as the founders and co-leaders of Giving Light, a local church and global resource center located in the heart of central Pennsylvania. In addition, Dr. Melodye has founded the
#StopDevaluation movement in an effort to see hearts and cultures healed through love and validation.